9 Steps to living an Empowered Life

"the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one's life and claiming one's rights"

1. Stop putting people on a pedestal
When I started dipping my toes into the wellness world, I found multiple amazing women with such strong and powerful messages, I thought they were amazing and read every single blog post I could.
I remember when I started doing Yoga I thought my Yoga teachers were perfect in every single way. I then became a yoga teacher and realised I didn’t have my shit together at all.
When you put someone on a pedestal you instantly create a wall between you and that other person. You’re stating to the universe that you are less than and that they’re always going to be better than you. Whilst it’s great to admire people, you are not separate from them. We are all equal and you are not better or less than anyone on this planet. When you admire someone or a quality they possess it means that something that they emanate is starting to birth within you (in your own way, not in the exact way that they are). Everyone is unique and that’s the beautiful thing about life. EMBRACE YOU!

2. Practice Patience
As a typical Leo patience isn’t something that comes easy for me, but without it you end up going around in circles. In todays society, we want everything, and we want it now. Unfortunately, that’s not how life works and with good reason.
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying a million times that life is a journey. It’s only been till recently that I’ve really got this and embodied it. We must enjoy the journey, because if we’re constantly in a rush to get to our end destination we really miss the beauty of life. You will continue to move your own goal posts, and never get to your “end destination”. You’re going to get to where you need to go regardless so it’s up to whether you enjoy the ride or not!

3. Gratitude
It’s been scientifically proven that you cannot be in a state of gratitude and depression at the same time.
The Universal law is like attracts like. If you practise gratitude regularly the universe is going to give you more things to be grateful for.
You cannot live an empowering live when you’re living in lack.
I like to write down 3 things in my journal that I’m grateful for every morning, it’s a great way to start your day and puts you in a positive mindset.
“Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realise there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you” – Lao Tzu

4. Stop Saying Sorry
Whilst on retreat a few years ago I met a beautiful woman by the name of Mel who gave me the most wonderful advice I’d ever received.
Instead of saying sorry, say thank you.
When you say sorry you are instantly giving your power away.
Now don’t get me wrong there are times in our life when the word sorry (when said with authenticity) is needed. However, we use it multiple times a day with no meaning behind it, literally apologising just for who we are. It’s time to break the habit.
So if you’re running late, instead of saying “Sorry I’m late”, replace it with “Thank you for waiting for me, I appreciate your patience.”

5. Learn to say NO
Ever been in a situation where you’ve said yes to catching up with a friend because you feel obligated, but all you wanted to do was hangout at home in your PJs? You’ve then gone to catch up with your friend feeling resentful and depleted afterwards?
It’s not serving anyone! It’s not fair on you and it’s not fair on the other person because they’re getting a shitty version of you, not a bright shiny version of you.
When saying no be honest, if you want to stay at home just state that clearly, there’s no need to lie. Stand in your power.
If you’re someone that can struggle deciding yes or no, listen to your body.
Your body is constantly trying to communicate with you, you just need to create space in your life to listen.
Over time you’ll learn how your body reacts to situations and be able to easily discern what’s right for you.
“No, is a full sentence” – Melissa Ambrossini

6. Challenge your mind/ego
Our Ego can be nice and loud, it likes to put us down and tell us we can’t do things. It is doing this to try and keep us safe and protected, which also keeps us stuck and allows no growth.
Our thoughts and our mind are not who we are, they are separate. It’s just sometimes they can be so loud, they feel as though they’re taking over. Which is where practices such as meditation or yoga can help to quiet your thoughts.
I invite you to challenge any negative thoughts you are having, because you are one badass, sexy powerhouse and that is your truth.
Don’t run from fear. As they say; Feel the fear and do it anyway.
Fear is: False Evidence Appearing Real.
You were not put into this world just to suffer, so don’t become passenger to your mind.

7. Disconnect from your phone
Don’t compare your behind the scenes with someone else’s highlight reel.
Social media can be an amazing place for connection, but it can also suck the life out of you. Social media has become an addiction that no one wants to address. We spend hours each day scrolling looking for external validation in the form of likes and follows.
What were to happen if social media ceased to exist? It’s not real life!
Schedule in some tech free time each week and start to notice how much lighter you feel.
Most importantly do not take your phone to bed with you!
Place your phone on charge on the other side of the room if possible, you’re sleep will start to improve as a result.

8. Become your own best friend
Imagine if you loved yourself so much that you didn’t NEED anyone or anything else.
we spend a lot of time worrying about what other people may think but when we’re so content with who we are and KNOW who we are, if we choose to stand in our power there’s literally no room for anyone to question us.
Start to notice how you speak to yourself. Ask yourself, would you speak to your best friend the same way you speak to yourself?

9. Look after yourself!
How can you live an empowering life if you’re not looking after yourself? Prioritise YOU. Get enough sleep, eat well but treat yourself on occasion, prioritise self-care, surround yourself with people that lift you up. When your cup is full you can give to others from the overflow. Deep down you know exactly what you need to be doing to look after yourself. Set small goals and allow them to be achievable long term.